What’s gone so wrong in the family court?

I knew that things weren’t what they used to be in the family courts, but I have been shocked to discover just how bad it’s become, how loving and caring mothers are being penalised and demonised, and children forced to have contact, or live, with abusive fathers. I’ve recently come across this group of mothers

By |March 20th, 2018|0 Comments

Beware: it’s Divorce Day!

The stress of Christmas followed by a new year inviting a new start or a ‘new you’ results in a big increase in enquiries to solicitors about divorce. Of course the problems started the year before, or maybe ten years before, but no-one wants to think about splitting up before Christmas. At the start of

By |January 7th, 2018|0 Comments

Father murdered his boys

Claire Throssel was on Woman’s Hour last week explaining how her two children, aged 12 and 9, were murdered by their father when he set fire to their home.  He was a bully, the boys were scared of him and they didn’t want to see him.  But the court had ordered five hours of unsupervised

By |November 9th, 2015|0 Comments

Good advice from Agony Uncle

I always enjoy Graham Norton’s problem page in the Saturday Telegraph and his reply to this week’s ‘Letter of the Week’ was spot on: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/wellbeing/graham-nortons-advice/graham-norton-help-advice-divorce-marriage-wife-husband/ The writer had spent an eye-watering £300,000 and counting on legal fees and was nowhere near a settlement as his wife wanted the matrimonial home to be sold and the

By |November 9th, 2015|0 Comments

Think About the Children

I recently met a mother in her early thirties and when I told her what I did, she responded by saying her parents had divorced when she was a child. I asked her if she would talk to me about it, and tell me how it could have been handled better, as this could help

By |November 4th, 2014|0 Comments

Communicating with your Ex

When your relationship breaks down, communication often breaks down too. If you want to minimise the damage to your children, and/or want to resolve financial and property matters without paying a fortune to solicitors to communicate on your behalf, you may need to find a different way to deal with your ex. Here’s a simple

By |October 4th, 2014|0 Comments

Breaking a Contact Order

Contact is the right of the child, not the parent. Separation and divorce are traumatic and difficult times for parents. It can be heartbreaking for a parent who no longer lives with their child every day and, not surprisingly, they want as much contact as they can get. But this ‘getting’ may involve taking more

By |October 4th, 2014|0 Comments


In 2012 a friend visited New Zealand, twice struck in recent years by hugely destructive earthquakes. Even while looking forward to seeing old friends in North Island, and landscapes of great beauty and variety, she nevertheless sat on the plane wondering: “Why on earth am I visiting an earthquake zone?” Once arrived, she was deeply