Controlling relationship (coercive control)

Coercive control (the formal name for what is more usually referred to as a ‘controlling relationship’) has been a criminal offence since 2015, although unfortunately there have not been a great number of prosecutions yet.

If you feel controlled, frightened, isolated or dependent because of the way your partner behaves towards you, this may amount to coercive control. They may control you by:

  • monitoring what you do and where you go
  • isolating you from your friends and family
  • controlling how much money you have and how you spend it
  • threatening to harm or kill you or your child
  • threatening to publish information about you or to report you to the police or the authorities
  • damaging your property or household goods

Any of the above amount to abuse, so if you relate to them please read the page on abusive relationships.

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